The start of my TTC journey may be different than yours but, our end goal is the same – to get that BFP no matter what it takes.
In April of 2010, my husband and I conceived our first child. Although unplanned, we were elated and ready to embrace the next chapter of life. Unfortunately, at 12 weeks we suffered a devastating loss in the form of a missed miscarriage.
I was 23 at the time, healthy, active and young, for me there was no logical reason for our child to pass. I was left dumbfounded and depressed. The thought of a miscarriage had never even crossed my mind and there I was suffering a major loss.
In September of 2010, two months after a D&C, I become CONSUMED with getting pregnant. I was filled with a DESPERATE NEED, an overwhelming DESIRE really, to have a baby. The feeling was so strong that it ate up every single minute, hour and day. At the same time, I was terrified of another miscarriage. I was determined to do everything I/we possibly could to carry a healthy child to term.
I remember trying to talk to my Doctor, (who I changed immediately after this) about how I was feeling. In one of the most vulnerable states of my life, this woman looked back at me with cold, uncaring eyes and said “Why? Why do you feel a NEED to be pregnant? You’re only 23.” And when I could not give her a logical answer, she shrugged and walked out of the room.
When I was looking for comfort, reassurance, and support I got nothing. Not an ounce of empathy or understanding. Never in my life had I felt more like a number, or someone’s paycheck then at that moment.
Feeling hopeless, I took the internet. I needed to find someone to connect with, someone who cared and understood what I was going through. (At this point even my husband was starting to look at me like I was not all there in the head. And to be perfectly honest I wasn’t. Even though he was great through the whole experience, he did not understand my obsession with getting pregnant.)
I joined forums, downloaded apps and began researching anything and everything to do with Women’s Reproductive Health, Fertility, and Conception.
During this time, I met some fantastic ladies that grew into a support team, we even branched out of the forums and talked daily via text. It was amazing to have people who also peed on a stick 45 times a day and not judge you. It was priceless.
After nine months of trying to get pregnant, I finally got that BFP I had been spending months obsessing about. Our first daughter was born in November 2011.
Fast forward two years – as our daughter approached her second birthday, my husband and I decided it was the right time to add a another child to our family. Little did I know that the next 3 years would be filled with disappointment and a bitterness that I would not wish on anyone.
I dove down the rabbit hole of conception, combing and consuming every bit of knowledge I could. The deeper I swam into fertility and trying to conceive the more devoted I became to learn about reproductive health. I made it my mission to became an expert on ovulation.
It took me 3 years to get pregnant again, with a viable pregnancy. I did take some time off in between to devote to my mental health. I found myself so lost at times that my husband would balk at me saying how I only wanted to have sex with him for his sperm, and it was making him feel upset.
One day I decided to just sit down and write out a plan, I needed to take back some control and this was the way to do it. I put into practice everything that I’d learned over the years and we got pregnant the very first month we used my “guide”. Our second daughter was born in October 2016, 5 years after our first.
Now, I can’t say for sure that it was, what I now call the Baby Making Blueprint that got me pregnant, but I do feel like it helped me, less stress and just gave me a sense of doing something more than mindlessly tracking.
Since the birth of my second I have put in to practice the BMB 2 more times, which resulted in my 3rd and 4th pregnancies. Both girls, born in 2018 and 2019. I went from BFN, after BFN for YEARS to – 3 healthy, pregnancies in 4 years!
Throughout my pregnancies, I continued to frequent the trying to conceive forums offering bits of advice, support, and encouragement to other women who were struggling to conceive.
It didn’t take me long to realize that I enjoyed helping other women on their conception journey and I could offer something that many doctors lack; compassion. I’ve been help women ever since, mapping out their ovulation and presenting a plan to get pregnant. But, most importantly, offering an ear for when times are tough.
I developed the Baby Making Blueprint after years of encouragement from my TTC friends.
Over the last 10 years, I’ve devoted hundreds of hours to self-study, research, discussions and online courses. I have helped 100’s of women get pregnant and fulfill their dreams of starting a family.